Social construction of gender

I recently came across a picture of a transgender who was once a girl but changed her sex to male through surgical procedures. His name was once Yvonne Buschbaum when he was a girl, he changed his name to Balian Buschbaum to start living as a man. When I saw his picture I was totally surprised of his perfect man feature. If the articles did not state that he was a transgender, I would think that he was one of the charming men out there. However, when I looked at the picture before he changed his sex, he didn’t have much of feminine physical appearances. He had a muscular body with broad shoulders(http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcHXhLXY7jZLMhjM6Kq-Ysc93zMV8U45dSG0FGlDwMZkntd4HlI_hccSyoSIGD7yx5-dgeiavjPO6GI4Or8qBcOVBtciIIx4BDccZLyB2k33c0g1oS68708Ot2dRFqv86lTL7CmuEjH2ab/s320/hotslutbailban.jpg&imgrefurl=http://thisiswhyimlonely.blogspot.com/2010/03/meet-balian-buschbaum.html&usg=__yfXCD7gl-RqRYYq2wV5fG-nMpBg=&h=320&w=250&sz=13&hl=en&start=59&sig2=9AUYapd0MwhRRz6l3luECQ&um=1&itbs=1&tbnid=_wX03ZCo_rJkwM:&tbnh=118&tbnw=92&prev=/images%3Fq%3DBalian%2BBuschbaum%26start%3D40%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26ndsp%3D20%26tbs%3Disch:1&ei=rdUBTIffOIH_8Ab-mc2WDQ). After reading the Lorber’s essay, I realized that I was socially contructed of gender because I thought that he had more of masculiny even when he was a woman according to what I saw of his physical appearances . He excerpted in his essay that gender, like culture, is a human production that depends on everyone constantly “doing gender”. I, myself, do not agree with a clear distinction between men and women and how they should behave like according to their gender. Even the words masculinity and feminity are socially constructed. I believe in equality of men and women, therefore, woman doesn’t have to look all feminine and does the houseworks all by herself. I actually spent my childhood with my brother and boy cousins, I hated the gap between a boy and a girl, therefore, I tried to mingle in by looking strong to play sports with them. But after a few years, I decided to just do “girl things” and accepted gender difference. Lorber once stated that “Individuals are born sexed but not gendered, and they have to be taught to be masculine or feminine”. I spent most of my childhood with boys, however, I decided to do “girl things”. How did I know what “girl things” are when I expierienced more of “boys things” than “girl things”?
The movie Ma Vie En Rose depicts the social construction of gender very well. Ludovic is the youngest child of the family in the movie but he is considered to be “bent” because he likes girly clothings and a boy named Jerome. He often meets Pam in his dreams , a beautiful, feminine figure that reflects what society wants a girl to be like and wishes to be like her. One day, he is told to bring his favorite toys to school, unlike other boys, he brings Pam and Ben to school. As he starts to like Jerome, a boyfriend, and begins to realize his identity and says “I am going to get married to him when I am not a man” and thinks that God gave him y chromosome instead of an x chromosome which has fallen into the trash. He is considered “bent” in the movie because society calls him “bent”. People refuse to accept the way he is and don’t let him be what he is. As a result his parents get in trouble with raising a “bent” boy and decide to send him to the psychologist. However, after a few sessions of therapy, the psychologist realizes his biological identity of gender and tells his mother to accept the way he is. In the end of the movie, his family moves to a different neighborhood and accepts the difference. However, the society expells him out of school and community. People are stereotyped because of what they learn at birth. However, there are exceptions that can not be explained but because of what they learned at birth, they do not accept but attack to correct the "wrong".